Trust the Process: What "Process Over Outcome" Really Means for Young Athletes (and How Parents Can Help Explain It)

By Coach Dave

When we hear coaches or athletes say, “Trust the process,” it might sound like just another sports cliché. But for young athletes—and their parents—understanding what process over outcome really means is one of the most important lessons in sports and in life.

Let’s break it down in a way that’s simple, powerful, and easy to apply.

What Does “Process Over Outcome” Mean?

The outcome is the result—Did you win? Did you score? Did you make the team?

The process is the effort, attitude, and actions you control—How hard did you work? Did you stay focused? Did you follow through on your routine?

Great athletes don’t just focus on the result. They focus on the process that gives them the best chance to succeed, again and again.

Why the Process Matters More Than the Result

Here's a truth: You can’t fully control the outcome.
You might play your best game and still lose. Or shoot well and the ball just doesn’t drop. But what you can control is your preparation, mindset, and effort.

Let’s take it from one of the best ever.

Jordan didn’t win every game. But his relentless commitment to the process—his training, focus, and mental toughness—is what made him a legend.

A Real-Life Example Young Athletes Can Relate To

Imagine a player who practices free throws every day, works hard in practice, and stays positive with teammates. That’s the process.

Now, imagine that same player misses the game-winning free throw. Disappointing? Yes. But does that mean their work was wasted? Absolutely not.

If they stay committed to the process, over time, those reps and that mindset will lead to success.

What Parents Can Say to Help

Kids often tie their value to results: “I lost, so I’m not good.”
That’s where parents come in.

Here are 3 simple things parents can say to shift focus to the process:

1. “I loved your effort today.”
   Praise what they did, not just the result.

2. “What did you learn from this game?”
   Turn disappointment into growth.

3. “Let’s talk about what you did well.”
   Reinforce progress, not perfection.

What the Pros Know

Olympic gymnast Simone Biles once said:

That’s process over outcome. And it’s why she’s one of the greatest.

Final Thoughts for Athletes and Parents

Focusing on the process teaches young athletes’ resilience, discipline, and confidence. Wins and losses come and go. But the habits they build last a lifetime.

So next time your child competes, remind them:

• Control the controllables.

• Effort, focus, and attitude always matter.

• And no matter the outcome—the process is where growth lives.

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Coach Dave

Founder

The Purpose Driven Athlete

www.thepurposedrivenathlete.com.